18 January 2010

Taking the Plunge

So I did it girls.

I finally sent an e-mail to the public adoption agency in my city. It's taken four and a half years of IF to finally do it.

I have no idea how long it will take them to get back to me, but at least I know that I've done it.

I'm petrified. Absolutely petrified.

IF has taught me that I have no control of when I'm going to be a mother. Starting the adoption journey means that other people will be in charge.

Btw, public adoption is free in my province. All we would have to pay for is criminal reference checks and perhaps a paperwork fee from our doctor.

We've discussed going private, but if we were to do that I wouldn't be able stay home full time. It would perhaps be a shorter wait, and we would have a bigger chance of getting an infant, but we can't justify going into debt.

My heart is beating so fast right now.

I took the day off for my annual physical (which isn't completely done since I'm at the end of my period!). I had the entire afternoon to send the e-mail or phone, but I waited until almost 8pm to do so.

Btw, I think that I'm doing pretty well on the F.emara. I'm not the raging monster that I was on C.lomid. Praise God!

p.s. Mr. JB and I bought an obnoxiously large TV for the new basement. Eeek!

17 comments:

  1. I know you're nervous, but it sounds very exciting! That's great that the cost will be minimal.

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  2. Congrats on sending the email. It is a big, scary step.

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  3. CONGRATS!!! I know that was a big step for us. I think that femara is "softer" than clomid. I don't have experience w/clomid but from what I have read and heard it isn't as bad. Hope it works for you this cycle!!

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  4. I agree, sounds very exciting but completely understanding why you are nervous. What a blessing to not have to worry about the financial end of things!
    btw, what clomid dose were you on that bothered you? Hoping that fer.mara works well for you. And enjoy that tv!

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  5. How exciting! AND fantastic that it is free! I had no idea.

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  6. Congratulations on sending the email to get started. I'm glad you feel better on Femara than Clomid; I hope it helps.

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  7. I can completely relate to not being in control. But I wasn't ever completely in control of my IF anyway, so I just accept adoption as part of that.

    Congratulations on your decision. I really think you will feel productive during the paperwork part.

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  8. My heart was beating so fast as I read your post!
    This is so exciting and I am sure very nerve racking.
    Praying for you and your husband! God will bless your willingness to be open to His will!!!

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  9. JB - that is so awesome! Way to go. Just last night, my husband and I were talking about what next steps we were going to take in regards to the adoption...but we are so at the beginning of this, so we will probably just start with setting up meetings with some of our friends that have adopted. Thanks for giving me the inclination to get off our rear ends and move on this as well!

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  10. Congrats - it must have been nerve racking to send the email - and you did it! So the first step is done :-)

    I'm pretty sure Ontario requires potential adoptive and foster parents to take a 3 hour a week, 10 week course. Definitely for aboriginal and Jewish family child services - and for these adoptive services, the course is combined for foster and adoptive parents-to-be.

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  11. That really IS taking the plunge. I haven't gone any further than looking at a few regional Catholic Charities adoption sites (and shutting them in disgust). I don't know the financial structure with Canada's public adoption, but it sounds like they're doing this the right way. As far as I can see, finding families for orphans is a charitable activity, and the generous couples who give the little ones a home are the most charitable of all. The fact that said couples pay the price of a new car in the US for the privilege of raising a child who would otherwise have had no family plain boggles my mind. (I appreciate that the adoptive parents receive great blessings here, too, but if they're already donating the time, effort, and expense of raising a child, being required to purchase the baby as well seems fairly shocking.) So, anyway, go Canada.

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  12. Jelly Belly - I've been following your blog since last Oct/Nov when I began using the Creighton model. I have been on 50mg of clomid for three months, and am ready to stop! Could I email you to talk more about this?
    Renee

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  13. To be fair, misfit, adoption through social services here is free as well. It only costs $20K (or more) if you go through a private agency, or do an independent adoption.

    But anyway, CONGRATS on taking the plunge!!! How exciting! I can't wait to hear all about it :).

    I'm glad you're doing better on Fem.ara!

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  14. Yay!! I'm so glad that you took the plunge. It's a long process, so your heart will have time to catch up. :)

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  15. Fantastic! So you are doing the same thing I am doing but just in Canada!!!


    So proud of you and excited!!

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  16. How exciting!!!! I am so happy for you, I know you're nervous, but this will be one amazing journey, I just know it! :)

    I'll be praying for your adoption endeavors.

    Glad to hear Femara is nicer to you than Clomid - I much prefer Femara, myself.
    JB's gonna be a mama... someday soon!!

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  17. Congratulations. This is an amazing first step.

    XOXO

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