2 May 2010

May Blahs Already?

I wish that I could feel more hopeful.

Perhaps it's because we had a pretty sombre weekend. Attending a memorial service for a family member is never a fun occasion. I don't know why I didn't expect Mr. JB's uncle's memorial to not be sad. I know that I have a low tolerance for any sort of negative emotion and I think that I shut off feeling sad. I found myself tearing up more than once while the eulogies were being said. Mr. JB's uncle was ill for most of the time that I knew him and his last few months were very difficult. I wish that I knew the funny, vibrant man that was described more than once.

It also doesn't help that one of the dads from my class (who is a high school teacher) gave me a hard time on Friday. His daughter has a problem with wetting herself and he said that I have too many constraints in my class. The rule is that the kids can't ask to go to the washroom while I'm teaching (which is the same in all the other classes in the school, I'm sure). My lessons don't take more than ten or fifteen minutes (it is grade one after all) and I'm not going to re-teach a lesson for one kid. Anyhow, she had another accident a couple of weeks ago TEN MINUTES after most of the class went the washroom. It was after lunch and it was a warm day so I let all the kids that asked go to the washroom. This kid didn't ask, so she didn't go. If she had asked I would've let her go. I didn't know that she peed herself until the kids got up from the floor to go back to their desks.

So this dad said that he doesn't know why his daughter is so reluctant to ask to go to the washroom. He made a snide comment about his daughter not being comfortable with me and that's why she pees herself. I reminded him that I didn't NOT let his daughter go to the washroom, she just didn't ask. He also said that he lets his students go to the washroom whenever they want. Being a high school teacher he has no idea. His classes last 75 minutes and he teaches ONE subject. I have to juggle every subject and I have about 40 minutes to teach everything PLUS I have to fit in snacks, recess, lunch and time to do work.

Anyhow, I was pretty upset since I don't think that I'm scarring his child (he basically said that I was). I told my principal about what happened and he said that I'm not to meet with this dad every again. He saw how upset I was and he also knows that this particular father is high maintenance. Regardless, it upsets me that this dad thinks that I don't have his daughter's best interest at heart. I did speak to the girl at the end of the day and I reminded her that if she really has to go to the washroom that she can just go (the rest of the class knows this rule, I don't know why I have to remind her).

Mr. JB and his brother are both having issues at work that are much more serious than mine. Please pray for my BIL. He's in charge at his school for the next little while and there are some serious issues that he has to deal with that I can't write about here. Needless to say, he said that this coming week will be one of the most difficult of his career.

In cycle news, I started to see some great quality CM yesterday (10KL woohoo!). I wish that I didn't feel the pressure at this point in my cycle, but I do. It also doesn't help that the hockey playoffs are going on and Mr. JB's team is still playing. I know that I have to relax since being all stressed out isn't going to help anyone!

p.s. I went to the C.oach outlet yesterday to get my mom her Mother's Day present and I got a little something for myself as well. I figure that Mr. JB got a new car, so I deserved to get a treat!

14 comments:

  1. Oh, that is such a bummer about that Dad. I really dislike parents like that... it's been a while since I've been in the classroom, but I am very sensitive to that kind of thing, so every encounter like that I had is still ingrained in my mind.
    And I TOTALLY agree that HS teachers don't really get how easy they have it :)

    Way to go for fertile cm! Get goin', lady!

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  2. I don't know how you deal with those parents. I hear parents at my work saying the craziest things about how the teacher did something against their child, when even I can clearly see that is not the case! It would make me nuts!
    Awesome on the good CM! yay! :)

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  3. That is awful of that dad! I had a kid with a wetting problem, and I would never, ever have turned it around to be the teacher's issue!

    Also, one time, my eighth grade son was reprimanded in class for laughing/mocking someone. The teacher let him have it in front of the class. Really let him know how unacceptable that was. I wrote her an email thanking her profusely for helping to reinforce what we teach him at home about character and kindness.

    The teacher couldn't believe it! She told me she was so shocked that I didn't get mad at her! She had never had a parent support her like that! I was stunned. I couldn't believe that every parent would not want to have a teacher help in the character development area.

    Anyway, it gave me an insight into what you teachers go through....

    Praying for a fruitful cycle!

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  4. Oh I am so sorry about this crazy parent. That is one of the hardest parts of teaching. Glad that you had a little shop therapy. :)

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  5. And why aren't we seeing a pic of the new bag? Hmmmm?

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  6. eek! Sorry to hear about the pushy Dad, and I hope things get better with his little girl, to me, it sounds not like a bladder issue but a developmental issue (a psychologist should be involved me thinks). this is why I'm not a teacher.

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  7. Love the Coach outlet...:)

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  8. Sorry to hear that you're having a tough May. I hope that it gets much better very quickly.

    Regarding the little girl, is there a school counselor that she can talk to? Her issue is obviously emotional or physical and with someone her age ruling out emotional first is generally the better route.

    I agree with Sissy, we need a pic of the purse!

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  9. Ugh. I am sorry about that dad. I used to be a teacher...I remember I got cornered by three parents one time b/c they thought I was teaching pornographic materials to their middle schoolers (we were reading The Illiad.)
    I am annoyed for you. I hope I am never "that" parent.

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  10. DID YOU JUST SAY COACH! love their stuff! enjoy using it! very good quality.

    Dad sounds like he needs to go on a vacation and chill out.

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  11. Good for you, retail therapy!! Post a pic of what you got! sorry about your crappy week, hope it gets better!

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  12. OK, where is the outlet????

    I hope that the start of the week has gone ok.

    My word verification is 'cycle.' I hope it means that this is going to be a good one.

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  13. I'm sorry to hear about this Dad, he sounds super overprotective and totally does not understand the difference between teaching grade 1 vs. high school. Ugh. It sucks that you have to deal with the parents too - it's stressful enough to teach a room full of kids!!

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  14. I love how parents can give us opportunities to show "what NOT to do." Complainer parents are the worst, so I feel for you. It usually comes down to them feeling guilty about not knowing how to fix the problem- so they blame it on the teacher. I had a similar situation in grade 1, except it was the mother giving me a hard time. The girl wet herself everyday. In the end she ended up going in a diaper because she had bladder issues. Then the mother tells me she was an IVF baby so she then blamed it on that....what?! I couldn't believe she told me that and then to think she was telling little ol' infertile me who has some major opinions on that topic. ;)

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